First of all Hello, found this site and have been reading. Thanks for being here. I have had 2 contacts with my primary abuser in 11 years. Under my own terms. I have noticed from other posts that some of their abusers are woman. I would have to say that throughout all of the abuse and torture I endured the abuse from my mother had the longest, worst, most devastating affects. The neglect is/was as bad. Long term consequences to sick parenting but I do not have to speak with her and deal with her. I have very negative feelings toward her.