I have been on PC for a while but never on this forum before. My 13-year old daughter, 7th grade, has gone from being a pretty happy kid to miserable lately. I should add that because of moving (my husband's corporate job), she has been in 4 school districts since kindergarten (although, in kindergarten she was in Catholic school then went to public in 1st grade. That was my decision because Catholic school wasn't a good fit for her.) Then, we moved to another state in second through fourth grade, then to a different city in that state in 5th grade.

Anyway, up until recently she made friends easily it seemed. She had one or two "best friends" or so I thought. The best girlfriend moved far away last fall (pretty devastating.) The other good friend is now obsessed with texting and calling the one who moved because the one who moved is coming to visit this summer and staying with that girl (which makes my daughter feel left out). One of my daughter's other friends is not able to see her much anymore, because there is a divorce in the family and the girl's mother doesn't answer calls or texts on weekends so the girl can play.

In short, my daughter just doesn't have a "bestie" anymore anywhere -- not at school, not at gymnastics (where she is three afternoons a week), not at Sunday school, not in the neighborhood, nowhere. This is her third year in this area, but it seems many of the girl friendships were well-established before we even came. She's not being bullied at all. She's just being ignored. For example, another girlfriend who used to be close now just ignores my daughter online and deletes her instagram comments. I've tried talking to a couple parents in confidence, and they are nice, but nothing changes.

I was severely bullied as a kid in middle school, and this isn't bullying -- it's ignoring. But for a girl, that is just as bad (I think, not trying to minimize how bad true bullying is.) This morning she already got up and asked to go back to bed and miss school. I let her, because she didn't even shower last night, just fell asleep with her clothes on and is in bad shape this morning.

She has been on a very low dose of Zoloft (25 mg) since she was 10, not for depression but for mild OCD issues. She's never seen a therapist. I want to get her into a therapist but of course she says "I have nothing to say" and doesn't want to go.

Can anyone relate to these (relatively new) issues with a 7th grade girl? You can't make kids be friends with yours. My heart is breaking and I don't know what to do. I know a girl needs at least one "bestie" at this critical age and I just don't see it happening for my daughter. She says she has no one her age to really talk to. I might add that I have an older daughter college age (who hasn't lived with us for years), and when she was in middle school she had one best girlfriend and even a few guy friends. My younger daughter has no guy friends and says she doesn't even know how to befriend guys. It's not that I want her dating or anything like that, but I know even having a couple guys to text with or pal around with would help her self-esteem. Any suggestions?