Christina, Thanks. He tends to say he is fine with all ADL's, and he is not. On a lot of these issues, he is kind of on the cusp . . . sort of managing, but really needing supervision. It seems the VA does hang back and can leave you in the lurch, if you do not "push."

Terry, I checked on the Medicaid, and it sounds like applying for that would be one way to go. If I'm reading right, we do need to go to Dept of Human services for that. I'm wondering if that, or the VA, would be better. Maybe there would be no harm in applying for both.

Perna, Thank you, those are very relevant articles.