Years ago in 12-Step I learned a very useful saying that applies well to online groups and r/t ones, too:

"What you see hear, what you say here
When you leave here, let it STAY here."

Simple and effective. IMHO, many people on here have already been violated in some way. They need a SAFE place to unburden without fear. Maybe this site is the first time they have had the courage to really open up and share. By not respecting that need it could trigger someone, perhaps make them close back up again and not share at all, a second violation in a sense. If you take things posted on here and use them to hurt or harm in some way, then you are, IMHO, invalidating the founding premise of this site, which is to be a place of support and caring.

Respect of an individual should be a basic, independent of whether or not you personally like an individual. Period.

Thank you, DocJohn and all the moderators for a great site full of useful resources. You are appreciated.

SFK