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Old Apr 29, 2013, 03:11 PM
anonymous82113
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Originally Posted by Dolly75 View Post
(He said his marriage was over for a few years already, but they hadn't done anything about it because of their kids and because he didn't like confrontation.
Without sounding harsh, I think that's the line that most married men spin when having an affair. I've heard it twice, and a friend of mine was told the exact same thing - she for a couple of years before it all ended when the wife found out.
Luckily for me, when I became attached to them, really thinking that I would like to be with them (without being physical at all) I said to them to sort themselves out, and then perhaps look me up when they are single again. I never heard another thing from either of them. Funny that.

I am not trying to tell you off, when it comes to matters of the heart we can most certainly ignore our heads. It also can become exciting, addictive and with real highs and lows. Highs when you get to see each other, and lows when you realise you cant call them at an hour of need because they are at the marital home. Its a strange relationship to have, and you did right to ask him to sort his end out - it may have just saved you of years of this and broken promises. I am not shocked with the outcome tho.

I guess you not feeling so emotional maybe because on a level you knew it may not end up as a happy ever after? It's not a conventional relationship so I am guessing that you had this at the back of your mind. I wouldn't worry about your reaction, but I would give yourself some TLC and some time out. Just see friends, try to have some fun, and try and put him behind you. I hope you meet someone else who values you properly (and not part-time) and that you can just chalk it down to experience.

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