Hello everyone,

This is my first time joining a forum, and I thought it would be a good way to communicate with others on a troubling situation that is currently affecting me.

I am 25 years old and I just recently got out of an engagement. We were together for a little over 3 1/2 years, and were engaged for 8 1/2 months. While I was giving him space over a weekend per his request, he moved out all of his belongings while I was at work. Despite our miscommunications, I did not see this coming. We had seen a couples/marriage counselor twice before this incident, so we only skimmed the surface and did not have the opportunity to go deeper into our problems. I feel like he ran away when times became tough, leaving me to pick up the pieces. It all began when I wanted to postpone our wedding for next summer, to establish ourselves in our new careers, have a good financial cushion, and take our time. We both had just started new jobs and we both were stressed. On top of this, my grandparents just lost their home to foreclosure and it became strenuous on the whole family. This is when we would get into arguments. He felt like I was too stressed and not handling my emotions well, and I felt like he wasn't being supportive. He started closing off, becoming distant, and blaming me for things that were out of my control. His moods were extremely unpredictable and I never knew what I was going to get. I began questioning his erratic behavior when he wanted to spend money on things that were unnecessary . What used to be "my money is your money, and your money is mine," quickly became what he wanted to spend his money on.

It has now been close to two months since we have been separated. I do not know where he currently lives, the only communication that has been made was the finalization of our lease and belongings, and the occasional communication that I will make in attempts to understand and fix things. He has been incredibly callous, demanding, and harsh. It is difficult for me to let this go, as I was blindsided and never thought this would happen. If I had it my way, I would like to work through this together as a couple and move forward into the next stages of our lives.

Is this a case of cold feet? Please advise.