Ok, I just wondered if anyone else has experience with this. I've had a friend since I was 8 (now 19) and she's always been...peculiar. She used to just stare at people when they spoke to her when she was very little. Since getting over that, we've always been 'best friends', although I've never really trusted her, she helped bully me when I was 13 and often abandons me for 'new interesting' people and *****es about me to them. I always made excuses but now I have real friend I know it's not on.
What's weird is...since we've been drifting apart (uni etc) she's started trying to...be me? it sounds really narcissistic but it's gone on long enough now and my other friend and mum see it too. I've recently been diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety, something I've suffered with since I was 12, along with self-harm. I've never properly spoken with her about this, till my diagnosis, but she must have known, seeing scars and knowing what I'd been through with school work etc. But she never asked. Now she's started scratching her arms and posting things about 'depression' and 'anxiety' on tumblr and pictured of people with self-inflicted injuries. She doesn't know I've seen her tumblr btw. And I've also been struggling with my sexuality for years, I didn't tell her about this till the girl I had feelings for left uni and I was struggling with it. Yet again, no recognition or wanting to discuss it further, but suddenly her fb page says 'bisexual' and she's posting pictures of scantily-clad women EVERYWHERE. And then, just as I got a boyfriend this year, she advertised on her tumblr for a valentine's date and BAM, a boyfriend. She also tried to lead this guy on and said he was stalking her when it'd got to the point I was about to call the police on my ex for harassment. And when I was worried about it, thinking she was actually being harassed, she said she thought it was funny to do that to him and it didn't bother her.
It's really frustrating. It's making me feel kinda like I have no personality and I'm just all these 'issues' she's trying to emulate. It also makes me feel attention-seeking and despicable for resenting her getting attention for these things when I kept quiet about them for so long.And more to the point, i don't want to be associated with people like that because of my diagnosis she's not normal, but whatever she has is not the same as i've got! help?