hamster-bamster,

I don't think that BrunetteBabe looks at the situation as though everyone is getting together and making up positive compliments for her. Of, course, BrunetteBabe, please do correct me if I'm wrong!

It sounds to me as though someone will say something like, "Oh, *Jane, your hair looks so pretty like that!" or "You're such a kind person, Jane. I really like you!" or "You have a great body." and so forth.

And the low self-esteem immediately cuts the compliments down. "They're just trying to be nice, to make me feel good. They really don't mean it." Or, "Their body isn't perfect either. Mine is just a little better than theirs." Or, "He just wants to get lucky ~ He'll say anything to get lucky!" That's exactly how my mind cuts compliments down every time. Just being honest.