People seem to think you have to look disabled to be disabled...and heck I have had to become a great actress around friends and family (and when I did have a job) so people wouldn't know how completely screwed up and dysfunctional I am. I can barely get a few groceries and not have an anxiety attack. But I probably LOOK normal at a glance.
I grew up with a mother who had MS and couldn't walk and had lots of other issues caused by the MS, so of course no one would hesitate not to call her disabled. But the definition is not that simple.
People can be so clueless and rude.
I am getting ready to file for disability...bring on the anxiety attacks.