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Originally Posted by ReddClay
Yes, I am struggling to share with my T but also because of this as well:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...riggering.html
I am starting to think the two are related. I KNOW I should not be worried because my T has mentioned transference before so I know it is something they work with. But still... 
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Hello Reddclay
Yes, you are on the right tracks - your feelings come from a child part/s of yourself. The therapy relationship enables us to regress to that part of us in order to heal it. It can be scary, especially when we first realise we have that part of ourselves, which has often been shut away for many years.
I think it's normal to be worried, because it is scary to find ourselves so needy and vulnerable and then to have to speak about it. When we are vulnerable is when we can be hurt - and that will trigger all the hurts of the past. These fears will be transferred onto the therapist and we will fear being hurt and abandoned - and that makes it so hard to talk about - but if we can talk about it, and receive a different response than we expected , it can lead to healing. The adult part of us may understand what is happening (logically) but the child part is about our feelings and they aren't logical and can be painful, scary and messy.
I hope your therapist is experienced enough to understand and to help you to speak about all your fears. It can't be forced or hurried and trust needs to form gradually.
Best wishes
Moon