I'm glad you did what felt right to YOU and asked him not to attend. I am sure that was very hard to stick to (it would be for me).
It sounds like your brother was a victim too, but it does NOT make it okay that he victimized you. It does NOT make your current discomfort with him wrong or bad. It's how you feel. Respect that.
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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
"Mom Is heartbroken and the rest of the family wont talk to me since i wasnt there. I think you should at least help me think of an excuse before i call mom"
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I agree with you that this doesn't seem right. It's making you lie about something related to the abuse--again. Just my opinion. You were more than generous in giving him examples, and then to find out that things are not as he described them--that's frustrating. Maybe he's manipulating you, or maybe his own guilt has him misperceiving things. Either way, you have a right to set boundaries to keep him out of your life as much as you want.