I agree with skeski. He doesn't want to get therapy, he plays the "I'm physically hurt" card on you ( like you're not??), and he tries to talk circles around you. Is it really that important WHERE these things happened? No, but if he can get you to change your mind on an address, then next he will get you to change your mind on the facts. that's how I read that conversation. Kind of relentless. And I wouldn't worry too much about manipulating the situation for your mother. The way I feel about mine is, if she wouldn't protect me back then, will she even believe me now? The scary thing about parents dying is that we are alone in the world without a protector - but some of us have never had a protector.