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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
I feel SO stupid right now.
I was in the mood to listen to some songs that I don't have....and instead of buying the music, I asked my ex-husband if he had the CD (I remember him having one when we were married). He said that he only had the cassette and wondered why I was asking - if it was for me or someone else.
I told him that I heard a song on the radio and was in the mood to listen to their songs, thought he had the CD and wanted to borrow it instead of spending $$.
Next thing you know, today, he texts me telling me he went to the store and BOUGHT the CD....and that I can borrow it from him. Really????
  
Now, for a typical person, I'd imagine that was a nice, civil gesture....But my ex-husband is not your typical person. I am usually super careful not to give him ANY inkling of an idea that there's any chance for us at all. He continuously looked for opportunities to cross boundaries....and it took me calling the police and having him charged in order for him to finally see that he is NOT able to do those things to me.
Things have been civil for quite a while....we can talk and text, but I'm always sure to keep it about our daughter - or sometimes family stuff, etc.
THIS was ME crossing the boundary....All because I wanted to take the easy way out, hoping to borrow a CD from him to save $9......Stupid, stupid, stupid....
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Ugh. I am so sorry MUE. Please don't beat yourself up about it. Dealing with someone who doesn't respect your boundaries and takes even the slightest thing as license to do whatever he wants, is so difficult and it is hard to continuously have to be on guard for any tiny little slip we might make that would give them a chance to take advantage. It is exhausting and it is all on HIM, not you. He is the one who has acted so inappropriately.