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Originally Posted by Evil Schnoodle
You don't get satisfaction from it....but the other guy does. I was THAT other guy, the friend, so many times. You are with our buddy..but even that shoulder closeness feels amazing. Several years ago, my friend was dating an amazing woman. We has so much more in common than they did. She was so attentive and conversational, I even thought about leaving my girlfriend if she expressed interest. Well...they broke up. I asked her to lunch and she mocked me on Facebook. I never felt so rejected. Nevermind I was stepping all over my friend's feelings. Just please be careful. That 'friend's can often fall in love with you, even though you didn't intend that.
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Thank you for your response. I'm sorry about that girl
You make an interesting point. One night when Bryan (who I was into) and Darrell (his best friend) hung out together and I was sitting touching both of them on the porch, Darrell was very aware that Bryan and I were having sex and that Bryan and I were interested in each other that way, it was pretty obvious plus Bryan told him about our earlier sexual encounter. But the next night when Darrell was drunk Darrell texted me "Every time I looked in your eyes I wanted to kiss you" and he wanted to hang out with just me and no Bryan, and I didn't want that, and now Bryan hates me for unrelated reasons and Darrell hates me for not wanting to be alone with him and for being straightforward with him. I feel lonely without physical contact from humans (platonic or not), it's a big complicated issue for me, and so I guess maybe that's part of my motive - because I don't want the other guy to feel left out or lonely, either. I feel like I'm kind of a pretty warm person and so physical contact is one way that it manifests itself. I don't mean anyone any harm but you brought up a good point I should be aware of, that I might hurt someone without meaning to, so thank you.
That sounds really sucky about that girl and you