I guess what's bothering me is I know he's CAPABLE of treating people with dignity, and it hurts that he chose not to with me.

Handle the situation differently? I think I wouldn't have given him the option of deciding whether or not we were going to have a talk about it. I would have cornered him and MADE him listen to my apology. In our relationship in general, I'm sure I could have returned some of the affection he showed me, I held back for fear of getting hurt - which is funny because I can't imagine a situation that would hurt more than this. There are a lot of things I would have done differently. Mostly it all just comes back to being more open, about my feelings, about what I expected from the relationship, about everything. The good feelings I had for him before and the angry and sad feelings I had later.