We can spend a long time, waiting to hear what we expect someone to say. But it rarely happens. Although I understand your frustration, I would doubt it if your brother would ever change, or admit that you may have a point.

So that just leaves you to live your own life as you see fit. If you work together, is there a way you can try getting a different job? You said in another post that you can't find somewhere else to live, but perhaps you can start making plans to move out? Sure, if you need to save for a while, or putting the feelers out there for a share with good friends, at least you could feel a little better knowing you are making plans to get out. Its amazing how much making positive steps can be in helping us cope with the here and now.

And I agree, start saying no. There's no shame or guilt needed, just say no when you want to. You are your own person with your own mind.