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Originally Posted by texascoco
1) I feel kind of bad, because he really has seemed a lot nicer than other guys, or at least more sensitive and easily hurt, and I can kind of get a sense about which guys are more likely to feel okay about hurting you and which ones are less likely, and he seemed like he was less likely. So I feel bad, like if I end up not sleeping with him it will hurt his feelings and it will be a mean thing to do since he's nicer than a lot of people.
2) but on the other hand my gut instinct is telling me that cutting him off is exactly what I want to do.
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In (1), you attempt to rank a number of guys using a criterion and since he comes out on top, you feel that you should reward his winning the contest for being the least likely to hurt you by having sex with him. You then go farther by starting to fear that your unwillingness to give him his brownie points for winning the contest would be mean.
This is one the many valid ways to decide whom to sleep with, but not the most traditional way to go about making the decision. Whether you continue along this line of reasoning is up to you, but I just wanted to point out what it is that you are doing.
In (2), you have isolated what your gut feeling is. This is a much more reliable and traditional way to go about making these sort of decisions, and I personally recommend it.