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Originally Posted by chilekat2
Think of all of the emotional pain you both put his wife through, and his children will learn of this sooner or later.
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I think Dolly over-cared about his children rather than under-cared about his children, and about his relationship with his children, so I do not see how she should be asked to care even MORE about his children than she already did.
On the emotional pain imputed to the wife, the situation was presented to Dolly as follows:
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Originally Posted by Dolly75
He said his marriage was over for a few years already, but they hadn't done anything about it because of their kids and because he didn't like confrontation.) I wanted to make sure he wasn't taking steps to end his marriage because of me. I didn't want to be that person. He reassured me this was something he was going to do regardless.
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unless the wife in a marriage which has already ended is still expected to feel emotional pain in the event that she finds about Dolly's presence in her husband's life (what would be the justification for feeling emotional pain in this scenario?), even though the relationship between the wife and the husband has already morphed into a formality and a sham for the (supposed) sake of the kids, how would have Dolly divined the possibility that the wife might end up feeling emotional pain?
Moreover, right now, and that was the main motivation behind the OP, Dolly does not feel her own emotions, even though, under the circumstances, she expects herself to feel emotions - yet, she does not feel emotions.
If a person does not feel her own emotions in a situation that calls for some emotional response, why do you expect her to empathize with the (supposed) emotions of the wife in a situation that does not call for an emotional response from the wife, per the facts presented by the guy?
That the guy might have mis-represented the facts is a completely different story and has already been discussed at length. But per his representation, the wife was not expected to feel emotional pain because she already detached herself from the guy.