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Old Apr 30, 2013, 08:59 PM
hamster-bamster hamster-bamster is offline
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Originally Posted by jacq10 View Post
In his defense he wasn't saying that he didn't want to use them per say .. we tried it, and it just came up is all. He also said that if I wasn't comfortable not using them that it was fine ... I was just hoping to generate some discussion on here about it... I appreciate your opinion though, it's helpful!!!
What you are saying in his defense does not work to defend him, because he is placing responsibility on you - he is talking about your being or not being comfortable and almost excusing you by saying that it "is fine". Condoms are non-optional and non-negotiable, and any attempt to negotiate the use or non-use of condoms is BS. Nor it is a matter of his wanting or not wanting to use them - that language of "wanting/not wanting" makes it appear that the issue is optional, whereas it is not.