Rap, I've been there, and am still there to some degree. What helped me is a therapist and pdoc who believed in me and challenged my negative beliefs while helping me understand why they thought good things about me that I had a hard time seeing for myself. People here have helped with that, too.

That said, I still struggle mightily with believing good things about myself. It doesn't come automatically or naturally, and it's limited to one or two things that I *know* I do well and don't need anyone else to tell me. Even that can be killed in an instant by one misplaced word or thought.

I don't have any great words of wisdom to impart, I guess -- for me it just took time (as in years) and lots and lots of support.

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