Many moons ago, I started to date a chap. Funny, fun to be with and it was all going well. Then he told me that he also dated men. I initially thought that it would be ok, as if he was in a relationship with them then who am I to judge? But no, it turned out that he just hooked up with random men, for just sex. He had sex in cars, woods and car parks. He didn't know them and never saw them again.

So I stopped dating him. Maybe I am too conservative, but being in a relationship with men is ok on some level because it would (probably) have been about love, but just hooking up with random strangers was too much for me. I would've said the same if he had a ton of one-night stands with women too. It also would've put me in danger sexually had we gone that far. I was grateful he was honest, but he was very bitter and nasty to me when I broke it off.

So I can relate, kinda. You stayed with your man, whereas I ran. What I do know tho, is that he cheated on you. It's actually not important that it was a man on some level, he cheated which is a super no-no.

I can't tell you what to do, and you've already declared that you love this man which tells me that you will stick by him. So what is it you want? Putting your emotions aside, what would you say to a dear friend if you found out she was cheated on?

He has a strong desire for men, so I doubt that this will be the last time. To say that he did it to feel wanted is one thing, but here you are being the person who wants and loves him, and yet he did it again. He then says he is stressed in your relationship but he should try and sort that out with you rather than go find a man. These seem like excuses really and I think he should accept who he is as its better than sneaking around and hurting those who love him.

Good luck.