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May 01, 2013, 01:09 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by HealingTimes
Thanks Willowleaf. You are right, we can never get what we want from texting, i dont think. Thanks for the hugs, they are really appreciated.
mixedup- i think maybe i am expecting too much of my T  |
It sounds like the between session texting is both helping you and hurting you. It can be, of course, an instantaneous validation of emotion, source of comfort, etc., but in the long run I wonder if it's hurting more than helping.
I suppose ultimately the goal is to be able to carry your therapist with you between sessions, to be able to not only remember but feel in your bones that she still cares about you even when you are not in contact, even when she's not there in front of you. Though even for people who are generally able to do this, there will always be times when we regress and it becomes difficult again. Part of the process, as they say.
Maybe until you get there, you need extra support between sessions, but I think it's important to keep the ultimate goal in mind and for the texting not to be an end unto itself. If you have trouble carrying her with you, and regulating your emotions, then I can see how it could be a source of great elation as well as abysmal depression -thus dysregulating you, one way or the other.
I know you want to continue being able to text, and maybe it's good for you for the time being, but it might be a good idea to talk to her about expectations, its effect on you, and long-term goals. 
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