Hello, Missy, and welcome to the forum.

As long as you hold a belief about yourself based on somebody else's happiness, you're going to feel envy, jealousy, and a whole lot more. One of the best things I ever learned was not to evaluate myself based on what anybody else said because people reveal more of themselves than anything else when they start talking.

SO-oo-o. What to do about it? Just evaluate who you are, Missy, based on your own deepest principles and try to live by those. That way you will win and you never have to judge yourself either. (And that also keeps us from judging others.)

When we compare ourselves to others and feel that we don't measure up to the qualities of others, we're always going to be looking outward instead of inward to value what we have and can work on for improvement. Happiness is really a by- product of being knowledgeable about ourselves and of living well.

Let any anger, jealousy and competitiveness be gone with the wind, in my view, and look to yourself for the way to make your life as content as you want it. I'll tell you the truth, for me it was taking a spiritual view of life. For others, it may be psychiatric help to work out some problems of early childhood disturbances, or just learning how to manage the events of our lives.

Take care of yourself and look for people as friends who are down to earth, respect who you are, and want to be respected. You'll find them because there are plenty of them out there who need and want your friendship.

One other thing you might be alert to is that young people,
especially of college age, have not yet reached full maturity, and they
are very apt to change their minds easily and quickly, just as they did during their teen years.

Good wishes.