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Originally Posted by Maranara
Allow her to drop her activities if she's just not in to them anymore. She's a teenager..they tend to change what they are intereted in with the wind...but at the same time revisit the idea often with her and make sure she doesn't change her mind again. Maybe she need to just cut back on the frequency, or take more breaks during the school year.
I am not against homeschooling but it needs to be done in a way that socialization doesn't suffer too much. I know what it's like to be bullied. I was there; it is very, very hard. But, at the same time, school is where most people learn to socialize, get along....or not. They learn the dynamics of a group and how to get along, assert their opinions, learn what they like and don't like, etc., and no, it's not easy, but it is a necessary thing in growing up.
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Yes, Maranara, I agree that teens change their minds frequently. Gymnastics is not something you want to give up in the middle unless you're really sure, though ... however, if she remains depressed and not into that sport, I will try to get her into something like cross country or swimming just so she'll have one sport.
I also agree that homeschooling can be very iffy. My husband is from the northeast and although we've been down south for a while now, he detests the whole idea of homeschooling so much that it's a deal-breaker with him. He wouldn't consider it for the reasons you mentioned as well as others.
For those of you who might be wondering why I am so focused on extracurriculars for my daughter, the reason is that my older daughter was a straight A student, 6th in her class of 400, got very high SAT scores, and didn't get into some colleges she applied for simply because she had no extra-curriculars (I mean none, she had played tennis one year but dropped it.) College advisors tell us these days that the academically gifted kid who doesn't look well rounded could get perfect test scores and still not get into some colleges. Again, not like the old days, where one tiny little extracurricular probably was enough.