Lonley, I can relate to your man. Not that it is right, just I can relate. The not being into oral thing sticks out. He feels it is degrading to women. To me that shows respect. Who wants to make a woman put his d*** in her mouth.

As a person who has been abused at a point in my life, a lot of these things your BF is saying and not wanting to do sounds like someone who has been abused at some point in there life.

Did you ask him why he was home schooled. Sexual abuse or misconduct is often a reason to take a child out of public school. Deep religious roots are also a reason to home school. That sometimes is a reason for deep sexual aversion. Miss guidance that it is bad or dirty. If that was ingrained in your head since birth, then it can lead to problem down the road. It might be worth asking why he was home schooled.

I suppose the lack of knowledge could be part of the issue. I'd never suggest pron ordinarily, but have you thought about talking about that and giving it a try. I had only been w/ one person before my H and the same for him. No one ever told me what my role was in the bed room. I thought it was to provide the hole to stick something in and that was all. Only after watching pron w/ my H (Soft core, female friendly) I realized that there was more to it then that. It is ok to touch yourself as a female when w/ a man in bed. Wow what a revelation.

I do the same thing your bf does. I freak when it is up to me to initiate things. Light down low and music, waiting for me to make the first move. That would freak me out and send me into panic mode. Making excuses, that is what I do. It is a less hurtful way of saying I DON'T WANT TO DO IT. It is a beat around the bush way of saying it w/ out actually saying it.

To me 5 weeks of knowing someone is not a very ling time before sleeping w/ them. I understand you feel a strong connection to him and he does to you as well. I don't know if you have the "This is the one to marry" feeling or not. But if that is what it is, then my suggestion would be to seek counseling and find out what the misconception is, find out what is affecting him this way. Show him your support by going w/ him. If he would like.

Is he taking any medications. You know what it felt like when you were on meds. It sounds like you had experience w/ that. (Good for you, no longer being on them) Could that be part of his issue as well.

I have been married to my H for 18 years, and this is an issue for us. I fear things will come down to an ultimatum. Be more affectionate or it is over. We have had that conversation when my H is angry. When he is not mad he is sorry for suggesting that. I hope you guys can figure things out soon.