I am posting because I can relate to the timing. When I was 30+ weeks pregnant with my second child (who, like yours, was a result of a speedy train of events - I met her father in February and married him and conceived her in August of the same year), something very very very stressful happened. The content of my stress bears no resemblance to the content of your stressful situation, but the timing was the exact same as yours.

I went to my regular OB-GYN appt at 36.5 weeks gestation. My situation was all of a sudden critical: I had no waters. None at all.

Prior to that the pregnancy was completely uneventful and unremarkable.

The OB-GYN induced me same day and I delivered my daughter in a couple of hours, with extremely painful contractions. The natural contractions (as experienced with my first and third child) are like waves - they go up and down, up and down, giving you relief during the down time. The induced contractions are not like waves - it is just one torturous contraction, with no "down" - at least, in my experience.

I think that the situation was not coincidental - in other words, I lost the fluids due to extreme stress. It cannot be proven, but that is what I think.

So to your situation now: I think you should immediately call the midwife or Ob-GYN - whoever manages your prenatal care and is planning to deliver your baby - and tell them that you are going through an extraordinarily stressful situation at home (no need to go into details, although I assure you that if you were to go into details, nobody would be surprised because they have seen this and worse in their practices already). Ask to be checked immediately.

Then, revise your birth plan. If you planned to have the man in attendance, think about whether you still want him in attendance.

Finally, although you have precious little time to pick one now, consider hiring a doula. I have never had a formal doula, but my third birth was attended at home by a midwife who acted like a doula - she literally held me in her arms. The experience of having your birth attended with such personal care is amazing and the difference between that and the regular, impersonal assembly line birth is that of night and day. Most people who have hired doulas report high levels of satisfaction. Since you have been through a lot, recently, it really makes sense to treat yourself well with extra TLC by hiring a doula.

Please focus on creating the best birth experience for yourself and the baby - men are available in large quantities and you will have other men in your life, but, if you are like an average woman, you will only give birth a couple of times in your lifetime and that would be all, so it makes sense to refocus from the situation with the current man to the upcoming birth.

Hugs to your big belly and best of luck. Please keep us updated on how it goes.