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Very true that we can't control the world around us, only ourselves.

Sorry I am picking this out but just a thought--- even if you have a s/o that cares for you, if you still don't self care for yourself, it is not like a s/o will fill that which is still needed from you for you.

Does that make sense?

I have a s/o, he is wonderful, and he is nice and kind, he has been a real plus for me in my life especially where from once i came, however---- I have still went through bouts of "I am meant to be alone, I am a lone", as well as Self Caring for me still needs to come from me even though he does care for me.
He can stick by me, encourage me, and love me... but that self care for myself I have to do myself.

Hope that makes sense, sorry it is a bit simplistic. I still am journeying on this-- hopefully others can hop on with better stronger stories of them