When I turned to the teenage years and my brother moved out of the house, when he would come once a year he was always super nice to me. Tried to buy me things, took me places etc. Said I could do anything I wanted to do with my life and he would help and support.

But the one thing he never did was apologize to me for what happened when I was a child. He may have a guilty conscience about it I don't know but the one thing I needed wasn't money or support or help but aknowledgement that I was wronged by him. And I never got it.

Because he was so supportive and nice during my teenage years after we had the email exchange I wondered if it was connected, if he was nice as a way to make it up to me. But I don't buy that anymore.

My other brother was horrible in a physically abusive way. Much more than typical fighting siblings. He would bruise me bad. I wouldn't be able to walk for days. It was an every day thing. Everything ended up with me bruised bleeding and in horrible pain. He would get bigger girls from my street to come to my house for the sole purpose of fighting me, knowing I'd never been in a fight before. And he would sit there and laugh. But about 6 years ago he sat down with me and apologized, he cried and said he was so sorry and I never deserved any of it and he hated himself for it. I didn't ask him for an apology, I didn't bring it up, he did it because he meant it.

If my other brother had apologized and meant it, and not apologized because I confronted him over it maybe things would be different. I do feel for him and what was done to him but he was the older sibling, he should have known better than to continue for so long. He should have apologized years ago. He should have stopped on his own without someone else making him.

I also don't like his blaming me for him not being at the wedding