Hey.. for what its worth, you were right to speak up. The alternative would be feeling like you have for however much longer and perhaps wasting even more time investing in the wrong person. I think you shouldn't be put off again in future relationships, its just this man didn't tell you what you wanted to hear which I know is hard. They aren't all like this, I promise! Some men just can't be bothered to go out of their comfort zone and try and fix what is broken, so the best way to be with them is to not bother with them back. If he couldn't talk to you about your legitimate concerns then you're best off without him. Sorry hun.

I know its gong to be hard to say goodbye, but you have to think of yourself and if you're not happy, then take control. Onwards and upwards and hopefully you'll meet someone who has a healthier attitude with himself (slacker and the empathy thing) and someone who has a healthier attitude to relationships.

Hugs