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Originally Posted by maroda09
I somehow devoted four months of my busy life to someone who doesn't give a crap about me. :-/
Part of me feels like this came out of nowhere and part of me is disappointed that I spoke up regarding an issue that was bothering me and now seem...dismissed. I hope this doesn't prevent me from speaking up in future relationships.
So much for that.
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I really do not see your point. Open communication helped reveal a condition that you find unacceptable and the other party won't change, and now you can happily cut your losses early in the process, after ONLY 4 months.
Since open communication was so helpful in revealing what you needed to know, I cannot see why you would not be
more, rather than
less, inclined to use it in future relationships.
The purpose of addressing him was not in getting him to say what you wanted to hear (thanks riotggrl for calling a spade a spade), but in getting him to tell you the truth, and he did tell you the truth, so you reached your goal with just one well thought out email. You could not have spent THAT much time writing one email, so you were not only effective but also time efficient in your open communication efforts.
I hope you feel better soon!
