Luckily, the same evening after I had went to bed, he said he had thought about what he did/said and told me it wasn't so right of him.

Apparently he's sexually frustrated being across the sea and felt I was rejecting his needs. We are both of religion that states no sex before marriage, so I tend to remind him once in awhile so at least I know I'm not the only one aware of our actions contradicting ourselves. I hear its sadly quite common for young people in spiritual backgrounds to fall down easy because of society's over-exposure to violence and sexual materials (it's bad levels for anyone of any age...).

We still have things to work on, and I try to tell him when something bothers me....he also agreed not to show up naked online. (honestly, I prefer the feeling of anticipating things one hasn't seen or had for a period of time...but maybe that's a women thing more? we are more patient?).

The hardest part for me of course, is sharing my OCD. I realize he wants to help me in general, however, those here with OCD know how hard or awkward some thoughts are to share----its best to keep them between the person and a therapist, instead of scaring off family and friends and our partner.

However, I realize most girls complain about their man staring at other women, but I have to make him understand that sometimes it's just plain disrespectful...we all notice others, but commenting on and such isn't needed. Reality: Everyone is a bit insecure, so if a man denies it, he's probably wrong.