Do you mind if I ask you a couple questions? I don't really know anything about anorexia, but I'm trying to learn...

I understand that you *feel* fat, but... You know what your weight is and you know about the reccomended weight for your height - don't you?

Do you think the scales are lying?
Do you think that you are different from everyone else with respect to what weight is appropriate for your height?

Or is it more... That you do understand that your body is starving it is just that you *feel* fat and so you find it really hard to eat and stuff because of the feeling?

Just trying to understand.

I'm wondering if part of why he doesn't want help is because he may have tried in the past and not had a very good reception by clinicians etc. I've chatted to a few people online who had anorexia and they were really finding it very hard to get in to see a therapist who was happy to treat them.

Apparantly there is a really good eating disorders clinic in my city but it is hard to get into... I'm wondering about trying to get in contact with someone so that when I talk to him I can pass on someones name and say that a few people are really concerned about him. That I'd be happy to go with him and wait outside or go in with him if he would like... But I'd want to check out this person first to make sure he would get a good reception.