Open communication is a good thing but it can be hard to handle. He told you honestly how he felt and what he was putting into the relationship. He left it in court court to decide if you find him acceptable or if you want something else. I think we too often make ourselves out to be something we are not and try to be happy and pleasant. I think being in a releationship should be about being real and who you are. I'm not saying you have to be an a hole to your partner, but some people are rough around the edge and that is just who they are. It is about finding someone compatible and not about making the releationship built on trying to please the other person.