I cant. My alters seem to be different facets of my personality, one is angry and aggressive, one is carefree and whimsical and one is serious and logical. I would think it would be hard to get an alter to change how they feel because I always felt like peoples alters were "born" out of specific emotions. If that makes any sense at all lol. I don't know how to describe it. Anyway, I get how that would be frustrating with your therapist because it isn't your anxious alters job to be calm. Its your calm alters job to be calm.