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Originally Posted by Bill3
Here is a possibility regarding your stepchildren and your husband's anger/rage:
He is fully aware that they are out of line. However, for whatever reason he feels helpless to do anything about it. The helplessness and shame he feels is exceedingly painful. His anger helps him avoid feeling some of that pain, and also helps keep you away so he doesn't have to feel ashamed in front of you for what he so far has been unable to control.
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Bill, I must admit I have never looked at it that way before. There are times when I feel just so sorry and plain awful for him. I see the way the children treat him and it hurts me because he really is a good father. He is always trying, always. They just walk all over him.
I know it must be horribly painful. I can't imagine my children who I love with my life treating me that way. I guess sometimes its hard putting yourself in others shoes but I see it from every angle and I just wish sometimes my husband would stop being so good and show them that how they treat us is wrong. I don't know if things would change now but it would be worth a try.
Thanks for giving me another perspective. I will be thinking about this more.