I often journal about what touches me when I'm reading or about responses I make online.

I look at whatever reminds me of something my T may have said that I see outside of therapy. My T called me names :-) and I look for my behavior outside therapy that may show me what she sees. I just made a post in a school forum that reminded me of her comments and that got me thinking about whether I could "be" the positive version of what she sees while I work on loosening or controlling the negative version.

Everything has two sides, pick a word/feelig you have trouble with and work on it? My T "assigned" me a word a couple times (first "humiliation" then, "disappointment") and it was really interesting the things that happened that I realized were humiliating and disappointing those couple weeks. I got much better at seeing, naming, and describing my feelings.