MUE... if you want to do the jewelry project that is your right and its up to you if that feels like crossing boundaries... for me its him telling you what and how you need to do the project that is upsetting to me... He could tell you her favorite colors or a charm of something the kids and her like to do together or maybe the kids birth stones, etc... but not this way...

ETA: sorry if this is sounding too bossy ... I just found it upsetting