Adam,

Since you do not find her pleasant to be with (a very basic requirement, on the most basic level), you probably should not be with her, unless you believe that your depression colors your impression of her and without the depression you might find her pleasant to be with.

Also, you are very firm and clear on not wanting to have children, and she is equally firm and clear on wanting to have children, and to the extent that it is a deal breaker, she would be better off alone and available for others who share her plans on having children. I am not saying that to create a sense of urgency in you - she is still young and so the issue of getting pregnant is not yet on fire for her.