I used the Internet to find my T as I just got fed up with my past experiences with using referrals. I felt like I didn't want to trust anyone else's opinion anymore since I'd had no luck with them in the past.

Psychology Today has a lot of info out there about the Ts up front - so you kinda get a feeling for something about them even before you start. I sent emails and waited for responses. The communication back (or lack thereof) told me a lot about the T (or it felt like it did anyway - gave me a sense of control) and I didn't even have to reveal who I was - much safer for me. Could you maybe look online and see what you can find? Not sure if that would help, but I understand the struggles of finding a T