I have talked to my T about one of his other clients, the H of one of my good friends. I do not like my friend's H, as he is emotionally abusive to her and I was very concerned that we not overlap as clients (I didn't want him to know that I saw T).

I did feel like you did, that it wasn't fair to him to dump about one of his clients. But he's trained as a couples and family T, and that's basically ALL that happens in their sessions-- they rag on each other, and the other person is right in the room there-- and T has to keep it together. So I figured me b*tching about this guy when he wasn't even there would be easier.

I did realize something important through my discussion with T about him, which is that I'm afraid of him, if she were to ever leave him (which I don't think she will), I feel that he might come after me or my family. It was also important for T to realize that we needed to be scheduled separately.

So I think it's worth talking about-- and Chris is right in my opinion, your T will be fine. The question is whether it will be therapeutic for you-- and it sounds like it might. I think she is a prototype of a kind of person who irritates/angers a lot of people-- I don't care for people to dump all of their history all over unsuspecting people either.