Is it an idea to write a letter to your T to clear these things up? And ask for your T to convey back to you what he/she read in your letter. How the T understood this? Just to make sure you both are clear on how you communicate? You need to feel like your T understands your communication to further discuss things or else the risk is that you won't accept anything T says because T must have misunderstood you.

I would really make sure you trust in T understanding you in some level first, so you can then trust T to come with solid advise and observations. And don't be afraid to keep clarifying things if you are unsure.