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Originally Posted by Pinkie118
My boyfriend and I live together an have for the last 8 months and have been together a year and a half. I would love to and have said this to him, have sex every day. He will sometimes choose sneaking off to the bathroom and masturbating to porn instead. It upsets me and I've let him know. I don't have a problem with masturbation in general, but if he does this it means it will e longer before we have sex again. I don't understand why porn and masturbation are preferable to me. He knows I'll even look at porn with him. I love him and don't want to break up, but it also sexually repulsed me when he does this. I'd like advice on how to get over this.
Please don't tell me things like just get over it or leave or anything negative. I've heard all that, I want to stay with him I just want a way to stop having this issue.
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Pinkie,
Discussion, understanding and compromise are the keys to every working relationship. Keep talking to him about it and telling him you'd prefer he didn't do it but if you really care for him it may not be the right issue to draw a line in the sand over. Try not to take it personally. Any habit is hard to break, especially sexual ones and he may have been practicing this for years and years before you came along. Eventually, if he cares about you, he'll come around and at least decrease the frequency he does it.
Patience and compromise are essential on both sides.