My first two Ts were ok, but I did not have a "connection" with them. Both were well-known and referred by pdocs and friends. It didn't matter; they didn't help me at all. My current T was found by my best friend through online research. I know "they" suggest finding a T through references only, but my T is excellent! We have an excellent, therapeutic relationship! I'm so glad my roommate found her through the Internet and cold-calling. So, I would not discount that method of finding a T! It can work!

For me, I realize that the T relationship is paramount. So, if I was in your situation, I'd start doing online research for a different T....