life is fair, we all are given life when we are concieved then we all get it taken away when we die. it is the things that we are dealt with in between that are not fair!
I tend to think of it along the lines of because i have been dealt x it means someone else has been spared from having to deal with it themselves, also it is the things you have been dealt with that have shaped who you are, if you had been dealt different things you would not be you!