for those of you who are not allowed to e-mail .have you ever asked the T why that is beyond it is just a boundary or policy. have you ever asked why that the T has put those in place .would be able to share what your T's answer was .just wondering.

my T does not allow e-mail but i have sent her a few in the past and about 4 in the last 3 months .any way more then usual.years ago she told me she does not like e-mail because she doesn't always read it .her computer is old etc.. ant then it was she wanted me to be able to communicate with words etc.. lots of different things. anyway when i did feel the need to send and e-mail (i know not cool and not respecting her boundaries) she would not respond or bring it up in session at all.she acted like it didn't exist. it isn't like i have done this often ,maybe 10 times in the 3 years i have been seeing her .but maybe 4 in the last 2 months. a lot for me. anyway... last session she brought up the e-mails and i cant remember what most of her words were, but i got it ,she doesn't like e-mail. i do know she asked me what are we going to do about it. i said that i was so sorry for sending them,and that i will not do it any more.she said she wasn't sure about that .that if the reason i was sending them is because i am unable to talk about what is is them and that i would otherwise never tell her, she wanted me to send them to her. i don't believe i responded to that and the conversation about e-mail had come to an end. i know i was feeling horrible for sending them .i know that isn,t what my T wanted.but i am not sure what she really wants with the e-mail. but i know she don't like it. she then pushed me to talk about what i had sent in the e-mail.

so i know she said that i could continue to e-mail stuff i don't think i would be able to say otherwise . but i liked being able to e-mail her and not ever have to talk about it.i didn't ever mind her not responding to them. i was comfortable with her not bringing it up at all. i didn't want to talk about it but wanted her to know. i don't really know why or how helpful that is but that was how i liked it.kind of like the best of all worlds.she knew what i wanted her to and at the same time i didn't have to deal with it.why i wanted her to know in these cases i have no idea. for me it worked well.

now i think if i e-mail her she will push me to talk about what i say.she wont ignore it like she use to.i don't think that is ever going to work for me at all. i think she has finely found a way to stop the e-mailing. but really i wasn't that obsessive about it and i never bothered her about them or got upset at all. until now it was all just ignored.

now i want to ask her what is so wrong about the small amount i e-mail and why is it she really doesn't like it. just made me wonder if anyone else has ever asked