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Originally Posted by cc1120
Hello everyone,
This is my first time joining a forum, and I thought it would be a good way to communicate with others on a troubling situation that is currently affecting me.
his erratic behavior when he wanted to spend money on things that were unnecessary . What used to be "my money is your money, and your money is mine," quickly became what he wanted to spend his money on.
. He has been incredibly callous, demanding, and harsh. It is difficult for me to let this go, as I was blindsided and never thought this would happen. If I had it my way, I would like to work through this together as a couple and move forward into the next stages of our lives.
Is this a case of cold feet? Please advise.
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Coming from a once very troubled marriage. The money factor, huge!! Where to even begin, how that would hard to fix through marriage. Granted, no one really strives to 'change someone in marriage'(thinking about that old cliché, 'you can't change them'), to me, that means, once they are behaving like this, they more than likely will never change.
That would be a very uphill, climbing Mt Everest, type of battle you two would have for the rest of your lives, or until you decided, one day, enough is enough, I've had enough, I cannot live like this, etc.
Cold feet? Or, I realize how painful breaking up is, but my gut says good riddance, you deserve more than someone, who is unwilling to compromise financially, especially when they are 'erratic' in their spending behaviors.
((just speaking from experience, about this...I wouldn't wish what I went through in marriage, on anyone--including my own worst enemy. I tried and tried to please, be perfect, do everything right, be as compassionate as I possibly could, turning the other cheek and on and on and on...it's not practical.))