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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
Yes they do, you are absolutely right! I imagine you are confused and scared because of things that have happened previously in other relationships. Those will repeat within therapy. Your T will expect you to repeat your experiences. It's okay. They really do all expect this.
I don't think honesty is such a black and white thing. You can't tell your T everything all of the time. And I suspect she knows or understands on an unconscious level anyway.
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This is exactly it TR,
I am scared to get close, scared to feel feelings towards her because everytime I feel something for anyone they leave me. T said I have never had a stable person in my life, or a person who has ever stayed in my life so I am scared. We talked about these abusive relationships I keep getting into today and T said I keep looking for the good in people that don't have it and I keep getting hurt over and over.
I feel like I can't tell t things that happen in my relationship because she will think I am dysfuntional. She said that my gf will never change so this means I need to change again.
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Originally Posted by Daisymay
It's so painful isn't it? But you will be ok. Can you write down a bit of what you want to say and give it to your T to read? Start by saying something like: this is what I really need to talk to you about, can you read this first please?
Your T will be trained and experienced to hear and help you deal together with whatever you want and need to say.
Take care.
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Thank you Daisymay,
Yes it is very painful, too painful at times. writing it is a great idea thank you
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Originally Posted by _Mouse
Until we talk it out. It feels huge inside us. Once we talk it out & T gets to respond to it, it becomes right sized & manageable.
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I have heard this before, I don't know how true it is but it is worth a try