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Originally Posted by Luce
I know. Mine didn't / couldn't at first, either. She would automatically switch out. Staying and learning different things took a loooooong time. You describe her doing something new at the therapy session - trying to go to the bathroom, and her feeling of contentment / acheivement at her effort. That feeling of contentment IS something different to the anxiety. THAT is how change happens. One. tiny. step. at. a. time.
Next time she might be able to try something different. Or mabye not next time - maybe it will be a little while longer before she is ready to take another step. Still, it is all part of the process of learning new things and developing new skills. The hard thing can be wanting things to be different all at once, when the reality is that change often takes a really long time.
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The one who tried something new was a different alter. She is someone who is usually very quite but that day all she wanted to do was talk and do stuff. My alter that was at my last session is anxious all the time. She seems the same every time she is present. She tried to be calm but she ended up leaving. Is there a technique to learning how to stay? I have searched all through my mind but I keep coming to a wall with no way past.