I'd like to point out, I made this same post word for word on another recovery forum, and the answers I've gotten here so far are much more helpful than the two I've seen so far over there. Thank you.

I know all of you are correct. I absolutely should be less sensitive, but on a not-so-good day I don't at all know how to turn off the radar. I believe if it hadn't been for the intentional rudeness of the first incident, I wouldn't have been so raw already, and may not have even cared about the second or third. So that's the heart of it. When some turkey out there is intentionally rude, I know the thing to do is not let it get to me. But I have never been able to figure out how to "not let it." It's going to. I mean if someone walks right up to me and punches me in the nose, my nose is going to bleed whether I "let it" or not.

Out of curiosity, I'd like feedback on the two answers I got at the other site. The first one was full of more "choose not to be upset," again without telling me HOW to do that. The second was a seventy-something man who told me it was a mental problem. Well, no kidding; that would be why I posted it in a recovery forum, right? He then said his wife used to be afraid of the world, and he cured her by refusing to provide anything for her, so she'd be forced to go out there into the "evil" world and get it herself. His whole tone disgusted me. It was rather like curing someone's fear of water by picking them up and throwing them into the river. Even if it "works," it's cruel.