I think it may be useful to read the OP's story in another post. Her best friend and her long term b/f got together and caused the OP a great deal of pain and distress. Neither of them were there for her as a friend in her hour of need. They caused it.

Then I think its useful to read her post above here and that his phoning triggered a lot of the pain again, and she was left feeling guilty because she didn't want to be his friend and she felt confused because he leaned on her so much that she was feeling guilty where she shouldn't. Is that the sort of person who will respond well to her acting politely even if she wanted to?

Then please read my post again. I never said about her going out to get her revenge. I said that she has got it. Think of it as karma if you like. None of that is her own behaviour, nothing she did split them up. In fact I think she's just kept away, trying to get over the hurt they both caused. I never said about her being even nastier to him. On the strength of the OP's post, I was trying to say that there is nothing wrong with her keeping away if she wants, which she said she wants. Its him putting pressure on her that made her wobbly but she owes him nothing. Quite frankly I think that the OP deserves much much better than having a friend in him when he's been no friend - or boyfriend for her. Why would anyone want to be a friend when been so badly treated, and certainly not 'act politely' when he wants to talk about the upset he had when his second g/f left him. She should look after herself now.